While going through the rabbit trail that is the Internet, I once came across a forum where the poster was actually talking about how she answered the question “does the Universe hate me?” on another forum — and her answer was not popular on the thread. The breakdown was:
- Someone on another website forum asked if the Universe hated them.
- The responder gave the answer “The Universe doesn’t hate you; you hate you.” People did not take kindly this answer.
- The responder posted on another thread, which we’ll call “Forum 2,” about how disliked her answer had been, and interestingly, the people on Forum 2 actually agreed with her response.
In the end, it doesn’t matter where the forum was — honestly, I found it and left it just as quickly at the time. There are likely dozens of answers like this to the same question.
Still, to say “The Universe doesn’t hate you; you hate you….”
No one is born hating themselves. Hating yourself or feeling the Universe hates you is learned. It’s learned through experiences. It’s learned through the way that other people treat you (deserved or not).
And yes, eventually you may end up hating yourself in turn — but you certainly weren’t born that way.
The Danger of Telling Someone “You Hate Yourself”
So what’s the danger? The real danger is that when we throw around a quick answer, a snap answer, to a question like this, we say, “It’s your problem. Deal with it. You’re the one who hates yourself.”
But really, there are other scenarios. Only two would be:
- Yes, you really have learned some self-hate and feel the Universe hates you because of these experiences.
- You actually don’t hate yourself at all but feel misalignment between you and the “Universe that seems to hate you.”
Maybe that second reason is why the person is asking the question — not the first.
So if you have asked this question at one time or another, you may be more in category #1 or #2 — or something else entirely. We should never oversimplify such a huge question — because anything with the word “Universe” in it is not likely to involve a quick fix.